{"id":4612,"date":"2023-02-06T08:00:30","date_gmt":"2023-02-06T08:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/?p=4612"},"modified":"2023-02-12T17:59:25","modified_gmt":"2023-02-12T17:59:25","slug":"your-but-is-hurting-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Your “but” is hurting me"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"\"
Photo by Giulia May<\/a> on Unsplash<\/a>
<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Two hacks to prevent your “but” from squashing everyone else’s feelings<\/h3>\n

<\/p>\n

Words matter. So does the order of those words.<\/p>\n

Have you ever heard someone say a good thing… and then you start feeling like there’s a “but” incoming. When it finally arrives the “but” destroys whatever good came before it. It makes the good part feel fake, a waste of time, an euphemism for what was coming.<\/p>\n

The order influences recipient’s mood<\/h3>\n

Instead “GOOD but BAD”<\/p>\n

\n

“Thanks for your gift, but I can’t accept it.”<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

use “BAD but GOOD”<\/p>\n

\n

“I can’t accept it, but thanks for your gift!”<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The message is the same. Yet the vibe felt by the recipient is different. In the former example, the recipient feels rejected, in the latter they feel appreciated.<\/p>\n

Consider replacing a “but” with a dot<\/h3>\n

“But” is a trigger word. People are trained to focus on what comes after the “but”. If you don’t say it, people won’t be on alert.<\/p>\n

Instead of “GOOD but BAD”<\/p>\n

\n

Your design is great but we need to work on the typography.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

use “Good. I think BAD”<\/p>\n

\n

“Your design is great. I think we need to work on the typography.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Imagine someone told you that. Which one would you prefer to hear?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Two hacks to prevent your “but” from squashing everyone else’s feelings<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4613,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[39],"tags":[87,16],"class_list":["post-4612","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoughts","tag-communication","tag-kindness"],"yoast_head":"\nYour "but" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a "but" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Your "but" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a "but" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"The Geeky Gecko\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1920\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"1440\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Diogo Nunes\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@dialexnunes\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@dialexnunes\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Diogo Nunes\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Diogo Nunes\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c\"},\"headline\":\"Your “but” is hurting me\",\"datePublished\":\"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\"},\"wordCount\":232,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1\",\"keywords\":[\"communication\",\"kindness\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Thoughts\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\",\"name\":\"Your \\\"but\\\" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1\",\"datePublished\":\"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00\",\"description\":\"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a \\\"but\\\" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1\",\"width\":1920,\"height\":1440,\"caption\":\"Photo by Giulia May on Unsplash\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Your “but” is hurting me\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"The Geeky Gecko\",\"description\":\"The Geeky Gecko\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":[\"Person\",\"Organization\"],\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c\",\"name\":\"Diogo Nunes\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Geeky-Gecko-2026-v2.png?fit=799%2C799&ssl=1\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Geeky-Gecko-2026-v2.png?fit=799%2C799&ssl=1\",\"width\":799,\"height\":799,\"caption\":\"Diogo Nunes\"},\"logo\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"http:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\",\"https:\/\/x.com\/dialexnunes\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/author\/diogo-nunes\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Your \"but\" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko","description":"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a \"but\" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Your \"but\" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko","og_description":"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a \"but\" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/","og_site_name":"The Geeky Gecko","article_published_time":"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00","article_modified_time":"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1920,"height":1440,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Diogo Nunes","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@dialexnunes","twitter_site":"@dialexnunes","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Diogo Nunes","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/"},"author":{"name":"Diogo Nunes","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c"},"headline":"Your “but” is hurting me","datePublished":"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00","dateModified":"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/"},"wordCount":232,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1","keywords":["communication","kindness"],"articleSection":["Thoughts"],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/","url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/","name":"Your \"but\" is hurting me - The Geeky Gecko","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1","datePublished":"2023-02-06T08:00:30+00:00","dateModified":"2023-02-12T17:59:25+00:00","description":"Have you ever heard someone say a good thing and then felt like a \"but\" was incoming? I'll tell how you can improve your communication with one simple hack.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1","contentUrl":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1","width":1920,"height":1440,"caption":"Photo by Giulia May on Unsplash"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-but-is-hurting-me\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Your “but” is hurting me"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/","name":"The Geeky Gecko","description":"The Geeky Gecko","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":["Person","Organization"],"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/a6fa79b293f22912664654fcfbd2da0c","name":"Diogo Nunes","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Geeky-Gecko-2026-v2.png?fit=799%2C799&ssl=1","contentUrl":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Geeky-Gecko-2026-v2.png?fit=799%2C799&ssl=1","width":799,"height":799,"caption":"Diogo Nunes"},"logo":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/"},"sameAs":["http:\/\/www.diogonunes.com","https:\/\/x.com\/dialexnunes"],"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/author\/diogo-nunes\/"}]}},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/giulia-may-flyaBC0TN-I-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1440&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1506,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/tips-writing-novel-for-nanowrimo\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":0},"title":"Tips about writing a Novel for NaNoWriMo","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"1 December, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Trust me, I'm a loser participant. Well yeah, I can't say I'm a NaNoWriMo winner because I didn't reach the 50k words goal. Here's why I would never achieve that work mark: I have a full time job (as a software programmer). On a good day I work 8 hours\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Writing"","block_context":{"text":"Writing","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/writing\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/half-Winner-2014-Web-Banner.jpg?fit=1200%2C444&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/half-Winner-2014-Web-Banner.jpg?fit=1200%2C444&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/half-Winner-2014-Web-Banner.jpg?fit=1200%2C444&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/half-Winner-2014-Web-Banner.jpg?fit=1200%2C444&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/half-Winner-2014-Web-Banner.jpg?fit=1200%2C444&ssl=1&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]},{"id":1258,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/nanowrimo-2014-begin\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":1},"title":"NaNoWriMo 2014: BEGIN!","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"1 November, 2014","format":"aside","excerpt":"As I promised in a previous post I finally found the courage plot to write a fantasy novel. I don't know if I'll be able to finish it but I'll sure give my best at it. The challenge? To write 50.000 words in 30 days. This month is all about\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Announcement"","block_context":{"text":"Announcement","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/announcement\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/111411_nanowrimo.jpg?fit=822%2C1200&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/111411_nanowrimo.jpg?fit=822%2C1200&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/111411_nanowrimo.jpg?fit=822%2C1200&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/111411_nanowrimo.jpg?fit=822%2C1200&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x"},"classes":[]},{"id":2228,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/use-birthdays-as-an-excuse-to-praise-your-friends\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":2},"title":"Use birthdays as an excuse to praise your friends","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"11 May, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"Maybe they deserve more than two words. If you want to show off a lot of effort send a \" Happy Birthday ______! Cheers :) \" The smiley face is really important since it adds a bit of humanity to an otherwise emotionless message. I mean, these days who has\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Life"","block_context":{"text":"Life","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/life\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/finger-friends.jpg?fit=1085%2C600&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/finger-friends.jpg?fit=1085%2C600&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/finger-friends.jpg?fit=1085%2C600&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/finger-friends.jpg?fit=1085%2C600&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/finger-friends.jpg?fit=1085%2C600&ssl=1&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]},{"id":1744,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/from-dreaming-to-publishing-6-dialogue\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":3},"title":"From Dreaming to Publishing: Dialogue","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"30 March, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"This post is part of the \"From Dreaming to Publishing\" series. Don't patronize your reader. If it's clear, resist the urge to explain. Telling your character's emotions is easy and wrong Just show them, we're all humans, we'll get how he\/she feels Words and actions (beats) convey the emotion \"she\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Writing"","block_context":{"text":"Writing","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/writing\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/from-dreaming-to-publishing-6.jpg?fit=849%2C565&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/from-dreaming-to-publishing-6.jpg?fit=849%2C565&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/from-dreaming-to-publishing-6.jpg?fit=849%2C565&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/from-dreaming-to-publishing-6.jpg?fit=849%2C565&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x"},"classes":[]},{"id":328,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/which-are-your-means-and-your-endings\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":4},"title":"Which are your means and your endings?","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"3 March, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"It's easy to get caught on a routine. Have you considered why you do what you do? Maybe your life is being used as a means for someone else's end... Is your job a mean to become increasingly wealthy? or, is wealthiness a mean for you to freely choose your\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Life"","block_context":{"text":"Life","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/life\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"photo: Alexey Sizov","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/5.jpg?fit=900%2C599&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/5.jpg?fit=900%2C599&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/5.jpg?fit=900%2C599&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/5.jpg?fit=900%2C599&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x"},"classes":[]},{"id":209,"url":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/finding-courage-to-start-a-fantasy-novel\/","url_meta":{"origin":4612,"position":5},"title":"Finding courage to start a novel","author":"Diogo Nunes","date":"3 February, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Writing a novel requires a lot of effort - like time, research, and creativity - and it's probably not going to be a bestseller. Does it pay off? It's not about the goal it's about the journey. About when I started editing my poetry book I thought about writing a\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Writing"","block_context":{"text":"Writing","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/category\/writing\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"photo: heligan gardens","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/sleeping-goddess-at-the-lost-gardens-of-heligan-england-picture-e1411916435598.jpg?fit=1200%2C705&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/sleeping-goddess-at-the-lost-gardens-of-heligan-england-picture-e1411916435598.jpg?fit=1200%2C705&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/sleeping-goddess-at-the-lost-gardens-of-heligan-england-picture-e1411916435598.jpg?fit=1200%2C705&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/sleeping-goddess-at-the-lost-gardens-of-heligan-england-picture-e1411916435598.jpg?fit=1200%2C705&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/sleeping-goddess-at-the-lost-gardens-of-heligan-england-picture-e1411916435598.jpg?fit=1200%2C705&ssl=1&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]}],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4612","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4612"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4612\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4629,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4612\/revisions\/4629"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4613"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4612"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4612"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4612"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}