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Photo by Neil Thomas<\/a> on Unsplash<\/a>
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Doing volunteer work brings me joy and fulfilment. My first event as a volunteer was in 2015 and I’ve been doing it ever since (if possible, multiples times a year). I only wish I started it sooner. One day I’ll write about it.<\/p>\n

Today I want to tell you about one type of volunteer work: mentoring<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Mentoring students \ud83d\udc68\u200d\ud83c\udfeb<\/h3>\n

It started when I was at college. I was in my first year of my master’s degree when I started mentoring first years.<\/p>\n

I had 8 students under my wing, straight out of high school. My role was to be someone that was available for them, someone to clarify any doubt or share my college experience. After all, I was a student like them, just a couple of years ahead.<\/p>\n

I never did the work for them, but I was always one message away from helping them.<\/p>\n

In my opinion, the only way for mentees to grow is for them to try, struggle, and finally ask for help. If I offer advice without the struggle part, they will not understand the value or relevance of that advice.<\/p>\n

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Let’s use a gym analogy. As a mentor, I must not lift their weight. What I can do is teach them the right pose, so that their effort maximizes their gains, without injuries. I can also gently lift the weight the first couple of repetitions, so that later I can just stand back and they will be strong enough to continue by themselves.<\/p>\n

I also shouldn’t go on a monologue and tell them about every tip and pitfall. That’s too much theory without context. By the time they need that information, they already forgot it. When they struggle, that’s the perfect time to give just enough information and in context.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

When I finished my Master’s I left college and started working. But I still wanted to keep helping those students. So I created a website estudarinformatica.info<\/a> (roughly translates to “studycomputers.info”) with my tips and experiences.<\/p>\n

For each college subject I would answer questions like “How difficult is it? How much hours do I need to put in? What topics are covered? Should I buy a book?”. All this using a casual language that any student would understand and relate with. I even uploaded the handwritten notes I created to study for exams!<\/p>\n

I also had a public inbox, so anyone could email me their specific questions. I helped ~50 students (and sometimes their parents!). I met two of them IRL (in real life) and we became friends.<\/p>\n

Mentoring colleagues \ud83d\udc68\u200d\ud83d\udcbb<\/h3>\n

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Almost 10 years after I finished college, during one random day at work, a colleague sends me a message. We’re not in the same team, so there’s not much to chat about. But we have some things in common, we’re both QAs and she actually interviewed me when I applied for that job. She asked: “Hey, do you mind being my mentor?”<\/p>\n

I was surprised. I should be the one asking that, since I was the “new guy” at the company. I didn’t know how I could be of any assistance… but I said yes. And I’m so glad I did.<\/p>\n

Mentoring as a manager \ud83d\udc68\u200d\ud83d\udcbc<\/h4>\n

At first I was stressed. “I’m not mentoring a student anymore, I’m at work, I need to do this properly” I thought. I searched online how I should do it.<\/p>\n

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Long-term goals help define short-term priorities.<\/strong> For instance, knowing what you want to achieve in three years helps guide your goals for this year. And, in turn, knowing what you want to achieve by the end of the year gives you a robust framework to put in place your agenda for the next quarter, the one after that, and so on. Priorities are not to-do lists, they are supposed to be short and a guiding light. \u2013 Paraphrased from source<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Soon I stumbled upon S.M.A.R.T goals:<\/p>\n

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S \u2013 specific, significant, stretching<\/p>\n

M \u2013 measurable, meaningful, motivational<\/p>\n

A \u2013 agreed upon, achievable, action-oriented<\/p>\n

R \u2013 realistic, relevant, rewarding, results-oriented<\/p>\n

T \u2013 timely, tangible, trackable<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I even found a checklist for “first meeting with your mentee”<\/a>!<\/p>\n

To be honest, I never used any of that.<\/strong> The more I tried to use the tools above to shape or guide our bi-weekly 60 mins call, the more it felt like I was becoming her manager. She already had one, she didn’t need another. She needed a mentor. And I needed a friend. We both got what we wanted.<\/p>\n

Mentoring as a friend \ud83e\udec2<\/h4>\n
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“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you” \u2013 Someone<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I know some companies have a “buddy system” where an employee that is at the company for longer will help a new joiner. From my experience, I speak once with my buddy, on the first week of the job, and then we go our separate ways.<\/p>\n

Other companies assign you a mentor randomly. A person who works on web development might end up mentoring someone from mobile dev. Or maybe the personalities won’t match, like an extroverted\/confident person mentoring an introverted\/shy person. It’s just as bad as an arranged marriage.<\/p>\n

In our case, our match was natural and voluntary. I relaxed and went with the approach that was more natural to me \u2013 “this is just a call where two colleagues talk about problems from work and share their experiences and advices”.<\/p>\n

What I learned as a mentor<\/h3>\n