{"id":3055,"date":"2017-06-05T13:40:00","date_gmt":"2017-06-05T12:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/?p=3055"},"modified":"2020-05-15T14:23:12","modified_gmt":"2020-05-15T13:23:12","slug":"your-attention-please","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.diogonunes.com\/blog\/your-attention-please\/","title":{"rendered":"Your attention (please!)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Don’t babysit grown-ups.<\/h3>\n

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This might sound like a lapalissade<\/a> but people crave for your attention.<\/p>\n

We live in a world of full of calls to listen\/action (ads, social media, etc.) from brands and organizations. But for those, you can click a button or flick a switch and all that noise goes away. Those brands will carry on and their feelings won’t be hurt.<\/p>\n

My problem is with the humans, especially relatives.<\/p>\n

Because you are family<\/em> there’s this pressure to be together, to listen. It’s not like they appreciate your attention… they crave it!<\/strong> Otherwise, they’ll be sad, hurt, disappointed, and all that jazz.<\/p>\n

Maybe I’m a terrible person<\/a> but I like to think I’m just…<\/p>\n

Emotionally self-sustainable<\/h3>\n

I pursue that goal. It makes me independent, resilient, even happier. After all, you become your own master. You are in control. You don’t need anyone else to feel good.<\/p>\n

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You are aware of your mood and you know exactly what to do to improve it. You are your own master.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Socializing with others becomes a “desert” instead of the “main course”, i.e. something delicious when you have it, but superfluous nonetheless. I guess I apply frugality to relationships<\/strong>. It’s a skill that comes easy when you’re an introvert<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you were a babysitter, which kid would you prefer:<\/p>\n